When my fiance gets frustrated at outside things (as in outside of our relationship - work, traffic, etc) he seems to take it out on me. He's quick to snap at me, and seems quite angry. When I remind him that whatever is wrong isn't my fault, and he doesn't have to get mad at me, he doesn't even seem to realize he's doing it! Occassionally he'll realize later that he was grumpy with me and he'll apologize, but it's really starting to get on my nerves when he doesn't. Things are quite stressful at the moment (Christmas is right around the corner, money is tight, we just got a new cat who isn't meshing well with our other cat, etc, etc, etc) so the grouchiness is becoming a lot more frequent than it's ever been in our relationship before.
I'll admit that I'm rather quick to lose my patience with him when I'm grumpy with something other than us, but I don't think I ever treat him like it's his fault - I'm more the type who will either rant to him even if he's not really listening, or I'm just quicker to get annoyed with him if he does frustrate me while I"m already grumpy.
Does anyone else's spouse do this? Are you able to get them to realize they're doing it?
PS: I'll also add that I love him very much, so hopefully no one will jump to any conclusions about us having a shitty relationship. This is probably my biggest (if not only) frustration with my future husband, and I consider myself very lucky in that aspect!
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Answer by girlwithC at 6:39 PM on Nov. 8, 2013
I do not put up with my DH of 24 years. Acting shitty to me, and it is not about me. I just tell him.
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