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What do you say? "I HATE YOU!"

What do you tell your 6 y/o son when he says he hates you for disciplining him? How do I word it that those words hurt when you say them...

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 5:47 PM on Nov. 8, 2013 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • I say that's ok because I love you
    funlovinlady

    Answer by funlovinlady at 5:48 PM on Nov. 8, 2013

  • I'm sorry you feel that way. I love you
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 5:49 PM on Nov. 8, 2013

  • I say, that's a mean thing to say but, I love you.
    3libras

    Answer by 3libras at 5:53 PM on Nov. 8, 2013

  • I'm going to cry when that happens. But they are right... I'd probably cry the first time and say I love you very much and I am sorry that you are upset over *this or that*, that was a very hurtful thing to say and I am very sad.
    staciandababy

    Answer by staciandababy at 6:09 PM on Nov. 8, 2013

  • I used to say to mine (they are 20 and 17 now)

    " I'm sorry you hate me, but you are still doing ______"
    or
    " That makes me sad that you say that, but I still want you to______"

    or I'd tell them that it hurt me to hear them say that, but I'm sure they don't REALLY feel that way and the were still going to do what I wanted or have to live with a decision I made or whatever
    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 6:22 PM on Nov. 8, 2013

  • yeah- and that I loved them anyway
    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 6:22 PM on Nov. 8, 2013

  • I agree with the others- let them know that was hurtful, but you still love them. That should make him feel like shit. Guilt works! lol ;p
    mrsmom110

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 6:34 PM on Nov. 8, 2013

  • Mine have never said that but it would probably be an "ehhhhh okay" kind of response. They get even more mad when I act indifferent. Then they calm down and apologize.
    Izsarejman

    Answer by Izsarejman at 6:42 PM on Nov. 8, 2013

  • "Well, I still love you. I'm only trying to do what's best for you. I understand you are mad at me, but it's because you did XYZ." I would never tell a six year old that it hurts me when they say that. I'm sure they would do it a lot more if they knew it hurt me.
    2autisticsmom

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 7:55 PM on Nov. 8, 2013

  • "I HATE you"
    "That's nice, I love you too," said as blandly as possible.

    To me, I hate you, is a way for me to know that I'm doing my job as a parent.
    Rosehawk

    Answer by Rosehawk at 8:10 PM on Nov. 8, 2013

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