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People can be so negative...

You know when most people announce their pregnancy, they get great feedback and so far I have. I haven't really announced it yet, just told some people that I thought would be supportive and encouraging because although I'm excited about bringing a new life into the world, I'm concerned because it will be considered a high risk pregnancy(my uterus ruptured with my 4 yr old). So having a baby right now is scary. I just told someone that I thought was supportive that I'm pregnant...her response was "wtf...don't you already have 3"
I'm annoyed by that, it doesn't matter, baby #4 will be cared for and loved just like the other 3! dag, she said nothing like oh no, what about your uterus, but you already have 3...smh...gee thanks....(venting)

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kyheavensmom

Asked by kyheavensmom at 9:37 AM on Nov. 10, 2013 in Relationships

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  • That's when you look her squarely in the eye and say, "I'm sorry, I didn't realize my husband and I were supposed to call you for permission when we have sex. Would you prefer I call your cell or message you on facebook from now on?"

    Some people don't realize what they're saying until it's pointed out for them.
    NotPanicking

    Answer by NotPanicking at 9:49 AM on Nov. 10, 2013

  • for some reason people's rude radar is lost on pregnant women
    fiatpax

    Answer by fiatpax at 9:54 AM on Nov. 10, 2013

  • It sucks that she can't be more supportive, but to some people the thought of 4 children is more terrifying than anything else. Personally I don't think I could EVER have 4 so I may have reacted the same as your friend. I know it sucks, but it was probably just a gut shock reaction and she will come around with her congratulations.

    Congrats on the newest little, and stay safe!
    cassie_kellison

    Answer by cassie_kellison at 10:00 AM on Nov. 10, 2013

  • True but people can be very positive too. Try to focus on those people.
    Dardenella

    Answer by Dardenella at 2:12 PM on Nov. 10, 2013

  • Does this friend know your uterus ruptured with the last child? If she knows the history but nothing else, she might thing you're playing a game of Russian Roulette. I have to admit my initial reaction on reading your post was, "ARE YOU INSANE? PREGNANT AGAIN? DO YOU WANT TO DIE?"

    But before replying, I did some reading about post-rupture pregnancy and see that it's not quite as dangerous as it sounds on the face of it. Your friend may be as ignorant as I was. Give her the benefit of the doubt.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 3:04 PM on Nov. 10, 2013

  • Fuck em. Congratufuckinlations
    lullaby572

    Answer by lullaby572 at 6:56 PM on Nov. 10, 2013

  • Pretty much got the same reaction from my MIL on my 2nd, 3rd, and 4th pregnancies, so by #5, I was NOT looking forward to telling her.

    Instead, my husband made it sound like we were getting a divorce, and then sprung the news on her that we were having #5. Needless to say, she was thrilled with my last pregnancy.
    hopeandglory53

    Answer by hopeandglory53 at 3:15 AM on Nov. 11, 2013

  • Congratulations Momma!
    pinkdragon36

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 3:13 PM on Nov. 17, 2013

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