This is concerning my SIL. Anyway, my dd's b-day was Tuesday the 5th and she just turned 5. I have been with my husband for 12 yrs. And EVERY YEAR we always were there for my dh's niece hanna, and sent b-days cards etc. Well is is the message she sent me today. ...
"Hi guys. We were going to try and make it over this weekend to drop off a birthday gift for Marisa. At this point, we don't think we are going to make it...busy weekend and still lots to do! We will catch up with her soon. Hanna's 18th is coming up in a couple of weeks. Will let you know if we plan anything special...."
Like she and my BIL and Hanna couldn't take 1/2 out of their fucking day to at least drop something off. Its one thing to never send me a b-day card, but its something else to do it my dd. Especially now that she understands what is going on. They only live like 15 min away!! I am more hurt right now than angry, although its getting to be a toss up! Then she has the nerve to let US know if they are planning something for her daughter?!?! Grrrrrrr
Then she sends me this message... ...
."Also...for Thanksgiving, we may just do what we've wanted to do for that holiday for many years, and that is get out of town for a long relaxing weekend! I have been working many, many hours per week since early summer and have not been able to take vacation time to go and do anything. We realized that we all will have a long weekend coming up where we might just be able to pull it off! So, not sure if we will be around for dinner after all. Will also let you guys know, once we decide for sure..."
This year it will just be me, my dd and my husband if they do not show up. Can't they just come over on turkey day and go on the "get a way" the next day??? There are so many responses I would love to give to her, but all they would do is add fuel to the embers.. Any suggestions? Should I leave well enough alone, and suck it up?? Right now I feel more like telling her to fuck off and and since she couldn't even come over to wish her niece a happy b-day why in the hell should we go there?? But I know I have to be the bigger person. But I sure would love to come up with a guilt trip response that would my mom proud.. I am really upset at the thought of them not coming over here for turkey day, and I know my husband is really upset at that thought, especially when saw his face when I gave him the news...
I have NO family, I am it, just me. No grandparents, no great grandparents, my mom passed 3 yrs ago, my dad passed 5 yrs ago. My SIL and BIL are the closest to the word family I have. DD and DH are my world. Its all I have.
My brother and sister live thousands of miles away. I haven't seen them for more then 3 yrs. Much less talk them very often.
My DH dad passed away last year, his mom passed 6 yrs ago. My dh and my BIL are all the family they have. They have a few family members up north, haven't seen them in years. Well expect when my FIL died. So thats why am wondering why they cannot at least do something together before they leave. And now its looking like the same thing is gonna happen at xmas also according to my dh. My BIL has vacation time for 2 weeks, and they are thinking on going on a cruise.
Answer by KTElite at 5:23 PM on Nov. 10, 2013
Answer by Anonymous at 4:50 PM on Nov. 10, 2013
Whoa! I think you need to calm down a bit. I am not sure if there is any back story to you and your SIL but it sounds like she has been working quite a bit and just wants to go on vacation on her days off over Thanksgiving. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do. If that is the only time she can take off then yes it sucks for you and your family, but she has her own family to think about as well. As far as ignoring your daughter's birthday, again it sucks and it may or may not be intentionally.
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