My sister-in-law always conveniently "forgets" the item she is supposed to bring. My mom-in-law brings nothing. No one helps, I do it all. I work, they don't. One year my sis in law brought me a frozen bag of green beans, was this her way of giving me the finger? We never were close, but never had words, we just don't have very much in common. I don't get it...I always end of feeling miserable during the holidays because it is overwhelming to do it all, and the fact that no one offers to help or bring anything. I do it for my college age kids who LOVE it and appreciate it. My husband feels the same, but can't leave his elderly mom out, or her other 2 sons. What to do?Answer Question
Answer by NotPanicking at 10:24 AM on Nov. 11, 2013
Answer by Crafty26 at 10:25 AM on Nov. 11, 2013
I think the restaurant idea is a good one. Just make sure they know they are on separate checks.
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:26 AM on Nov. 11, 2013
Answer by funlovinlady at 10:27 AM on Nov. 11, 2013
Answer by Izsarejman at 10:28 AM on Nov. 11, 2013
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:32 AM on Nov. 11, 2013
Answer by fiatpax at 10:35 AM on Nov. 11, 2013
Answer by 2kids2dogs2cats at 10:38 AM on Nov. 11, 2013
I do it b/c I feel it is the right thing to do and I want to have the giving spirit....but I always end up feeling used. Comment by busymom954 (original poster)
Then this year, truly have the giving spirit and invite others over without asking them to bring anything. If you do not expect them to bring something then you can't be disappointed when they fail to do so. Make the decision that you want to do this for everyone and that you are going to take care of it all and then just do it.
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:57 AM on Nov. 11, 2013