I am curious to know what you think about this little scenario.
My brother and his wife have 3 kids. Three kids that my parents (the grandparents) have practically raised bc my brother and his wife have always worked and my parents have been the primary caregivers (without pay--might I add). So just two days ago, my niece had a "Grandmothers Day" at school and neither my brother or sister invited my mother to attend but invited the OTHER GRANDMA who you practically have to set a calendar invite to see or take care of her grandchildren. My mothers feelings were hurt, and it pissed me off, bc it is JUST LIKE my brothers wife to do such a thing. It upsets me bc they take advantage of my mother (who is in no age to be caring for a child any longer) and then they don't acknowledge her and include her in such an event.
I come from a Mexican family and my brothers wife is Caucasian. The reason I mention this is bc there are A LOT of cultural differences in the way that families operate. While I am aware that not all families with interracial relationships have these same issues, it has been an issue in our family bc we feel that my brothers wife does not respect or care for our family and the values that my parents have instilled in us. She is very rude and disrespectful all the time. She never wants to partake in our holidays, parties, etc. We have tried to conform our ways to her over the years bc she plays the whole "your family doesn't like me" card with my brother which is simply NOT true. We have tried to accept her but when you are rude and disrespectful to someones family and culture, what is there to like. Enough is enough. It has been this way for the past 10 years and I am just tired of seeing my mother get hurt and do it all for the sake of being able to be a part of her grandchildren's lives. I think it is my mothers fault too for not addressing the issues but it is mostly my brothers for allowing his wife to disrespect his mother that way. What do y'all think about them excluding the grandma that actually takes care of their children?
Answer by nicenikki at 3:36 PM on Nov. 13, 2013
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