me and the hubs rarely ever see each other. 11 years we have been married, and its been pretty good. he works 2 jobs, I work part time and raise the kids. its hard, and we lack a lot of our own time together, chances to communicate, go over bills, tell each other we still love each other......
we used to be a bit sweeter, more romantic and caring for each other, but over time I feel like I am the only one who tries to pass on messages occasionally just telling him he is amazing, or making his favorite foods just because. I may go buy him a shirt because I know he would like it, make plans for a night we might have off together and make sure its his favorite activity or idea... even just make sure his pillows smell extra yummy when he lays his head down at night....
So in therapy (yes we have ended up there for a bit), I have mentioned I feel like I am the only one making an effort to show love, etc. He doesn't understand how his working and supporting the family isn't showing that. Now I GET that guys mentality works differently than ours, and maybe because I am not offering a blow job every night but instead cleaning his underwear, he may not see how much I love him... But we have discussed ways we can show each other, and he still isn't making the effort. All I want is maybe an occasional text from him , not even every day, just to let me know he is actually thinking about me. Granted he is busy, but does the guy break for lunch, a drink of water, a pee break? His answer... he forgets. forgets. forgets about... me? that he actually has a family and a life outside of his jobs? Like is he so distracted by work and the people around him that he cant for 1 second remember he is married and send a sweet note to that woman who raises his kids and makes his favorite foods etc......? really? Forgets?
I know his jobs,, he aint THAT busy. and I really don't think I am asking THAT much.
Asked by Anonymous at 5:31 PM on Nov. 14, 2013 in Relationships
How about you get a full time job so he only has to work one job. He will be less busy and have more time to do the things that you want to do. And it sounds to me that you have too much time on your hands, so its a win-win for everyone.
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