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Have 15yr old son w/ false pride, lacked of work ethic- not sure how to handle him?

Have a 15 yr old son who is a freshman. He is a Boy Scout, does Jr ROTC and gets A,B's and a C here and here. In general he's a good boy but he doesn't seem to pull his weight around the house and has false pride. He is allowed access to great activities thru his interests but seems to take much for granite. Just lied to me about selling greenery to raise money for a scout trip & went fishing instead. He figures he doesnt have to since he has a lot of money from me helping with this previously. How do I deal with him when in general he's a good kid who has trouble apologizing.

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:26 PM on Nov. 17, 2013 in Teens (13-17)

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  • Just lied to me about selling greenery for scout trip & went fishing instead.

    I guess since he didn't raise any money for his scout trip then he doesn't get to go. 


    Answer by JeremysMom at 3:30 PM on Nov. 17, 2013

  • oh you mean he's male... good luck with that!!

    Answer by Crafty26 at 3:34 PM on Nov. 17, 2013

  • You need to stop letting him do the stuff he wants to do without doing the stuff he should do first.
    Also,I'm not sure what you mean by "false pride."
    Is he arrogant? If so, set him straight. Praise him for what he does well, and let him know where he can improve. His grades sound reasonable, but not stellar. He definately needs to work on his truthtelling. Isn't that one of the basics in scouts? Sounds like a typical teen in need of a reality check.

    Answer by tessiedawg at 3:39 PM on Nov. 17, 2013

  • Agree 100% with tessie and crafty!

    Answer by KTElite at 3:52 PM on Nov. 17, 2013

  • He sound like a normal teen to me. All about them. If he des not help, he doesn't get thing he want. Period.

    Answer by louise2 at 3:57 PM on Nov. 17, 2013

  • Dishonesty earns him a spot at home while his fellow scouts are on the scout trip. Tough love works best when you lay it down early.

    Answer by QuinnMae at 4:21 PM on Nov. 17, 2013

  • Sounds like one young lying fisherman who won't be going on the Scout trip.

    Answer by Ballad at 4:47 PM on Nov. 17, 2013

  • Post a list of house rules and a list of responsibilites. No anger....just matter of fact. Make it reasonable. If you are married get dad on board with this too. Have a family meeting to go over everything. Your son doesn't get to partake in activities until the reponsibilities are taken care. Period. Take him to all the activities like the greenery sale and make sure he connects with the adult in charge. It might be a little rocky while he transitions to the new rules, but it will be worth it. You are headed into some stressful years if you don't get a handle on this.

    Answer by silverthreads at 5:11 PM on Nov. 17, 2013

  • Seeing he didn't earn the money for the Boy Scout activity, he wouldn't be going. You need to have consequences in place for when he lies. He is disrespecting you and will continue until it is stopped. He goes nowhere and does nothing until his chores are done. No rides, no money, nothing.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 9:01 PM on Nov. 22, 2013

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