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Is this odd behavior?

When I was 11 I moved out of my fathers home & went to live with my mother. My sister who was 13 decided to stay with my dad, only the 2 of them lived there. He added her to his checking account so she could help him pay bills. Around this time he took us shopping for new furniture for the living room & let her pick out what set she wanted. When I visited for Christmas we opened gifts, after I left my sister called me and told me my dad bought her a new bed set, I thought it was weird she had extra secret gifts. Around the time my sister was 15 my father remarried, also at this time my sister began drinking heavily. My mother would try to talk to my dad about it but he would say it's normal all teens drink. His marriage only last a couple years. After the divorce my dad added my sister back on his checking account, she even had her own checkbook. He also added her on his credit cards, and she could use them freely. I always thought it was weird. I always felt like the odd man out around them. My sister has always been competitive with me for my fathers attention. We are both married now & have families of our own, but do not speak. We had a few arguments over who monopolizes my fathers time & attention. He once told me he is afraid to make her angry for fear she will never speak to him again I always felt he treated her like his wife.

No she never told me anything odd. My father moved out of state & when he visits she pretty much demands he spends majority of his time with her & he must be with her for all holidays & he does it.


Asked by Anonymous at 8:41 PM on Nov. 19, 2013 in Relationships

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Answers (10)
  • It sounds to me as if the relationship has crossed a huge line.... your sister sounds like a jealous wife or girlfriend rather than a sister or daughter.

    I do not like this.

    Answer by amazinggrace83 at 10:42 AM on Nov. 20, 2013

  • Sounds like he treated her like more of a wife than a daughter.
    Gives me an icky feeling.

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 8:55 PM on Nov. 19, 2013

  • VERY odd. Make me wonder if he was ever inappropriate with her.

    Answer by Rosehawk at 8:47 PM on Nov. 19, 2013

  • yes it's odd behavior. I agree rosehawk

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 8:49 PM on Nov. 19, 2013

  • Sorry, yes, odd. Did she ever say anything to you about anything?

    Answer by louise2 at 8:51 PM on Nov. 19, 2013

  • Odd on both their behalves.


    Answer by QuinnMae at 9:49 PM on Nov. 19, 2013

  • Sounds like he treated her like more of a wife than a daughter.
    Gives me an icky feeling.
    Answer by PartyGalAnne


    Answer by mrsmom110 at 6:42 AM on Nov. 20, 2013

  • The question is???

    Answer by louise2 at 8:50 PM on Nov. 19, 2013

  • im going to go the other route, you made the choice to move she stayed
    she loves there so he bought her a new bed set- big deal
    dad lets her spend money freely?

    We always had a credit card of my parents from the age of 15 and we all had joint accounts with my dad. Mom and dad were together that is the only difference here.

    All of us are grown now, we get gifts from my parents but on Christmas my youngest brother -38 years old who still lives at home gets other gifts that we do not get told about. I don't see the issue to be honest.

    Answer by luvmygrandgirl at 8:58 PM on Nov. 19, 2013

  • I don't see any indication of improper behavior. Having her name on his checking accounts is just a convenience.

    Answer by Bmat at 9:43 AM on Nov. 20, 2013