Do you have sit downs with them, talk to them frequently about things, or just let them do their thing and let them learn the hard way? Or do you think leading by example is good enough? ( I personally do not)...
Do you try to mold them to think the way you think, say about religion and politics? Or do you let them chose for themselves?
My mother never had one sit down with me. All she did was take me to Awanas, which I felt was her way of getting her own free time. (Well that's besides the point) but I feel that going to church was not enough.
My mother led by example by never lying, stealing, cheating, etc yet she had a lot of turmoil from her own childhood she was dealing with (abandoned, adopted, in a cult, raped-geese-etc) not to mention she is bipolar...so I do not blame her, I love her...she did her best. Yet I learned from this, and I do not want to do this to my kids!
I usually go off instinct in terms of discipline and so on...but as she gets older, things will get harder I feel because she will start dating and so on...and I don't want her to get hurt as I did.
Anyway, comments or stories appreciated. Kind words only please. Thank you.
Answer by bandgeek521 at 1:55 PM on Nov. 24, 2013
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Answer by Nimue930 at 2:14 PM on Nov. 24, 2013
I have always had open talks about things with my DD even when she was a little baby. Like soft touch and normal voices, indoor voice and outdoor voice. Now that she is older I encourage her to have many friends from many culture background and she is allowed to go to their events if invited. We specificity chose to raise her with no religion, but encourage her to learn about all of it. I often use everyday life to show ways of dealing with things positively and am not afraid to make mistakes that can be used as life lessons. We chat openly and honestly about how actions can look to others and to never allow anyone to bring you down. I'm raising a strong independent woman over hear. lol I also want her to travel the world and experience everything. as far as politics go we might be conspiracy theorist over hear.
Answer by pinkparcel at 2:35 PM on Nov. 24, 2013
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