I feel like I constantly struggle with finding happiness with being a SAHM. Most days I feel like I lost a million battles by the time I go to bed. My 3 boys are 2,4,and 8. They always complain about the food I make, they are so unhappy with all the activities I try to plan for us, going to the grocery store is practically murder.... I am just so tired of fighting my kids! The only thing they seem to find happiness in is playing video games, and I hate that. I am the kind of mama that wants my kids to enjoy LIFE, not just TV. They already have time frames and days they get to play, and I have been very consistent on this, my DH however is not. This is a long lost battle that I wont even try to fight anymore. DH and I are on board for most things, but he comes from a very lazy disconnected family where I come from a very close active family. He doesn't see the harm in how our kids are, but I feel miserable, like I am raising a family that goes completely against everything I had hoped for.
I just don't know how to be happy in my current situation or turn things around so I don't feel like I have a house full of kids that hate me, or that I just don't take it so personally. I never have time to myself either, and I have no idea who I am anymore. I don't have a lot of help, most of my friends live far away or have such complicated schedules, or just nothing at all in common anymore with each other, so I rarely go out or spend time with anyone other than the kids.
How do you keep going ladies? What are some things that make you feel like you have a sense of accomplishment at the end of every day?
Asked by Anonymous at 10:13 AM on Dec. 2, 2013 in General Parenting
Not every day is full of accomplishment. I've come to accept that. As for having my kids do things, if I don't want them watching TV or playing video games, I tell them to go play with their friends in the neighborhood. I prefer that they play outside if the weather is nice or even just decent. I will take them to the park. I have come to really hate TV for the most part. Some people keep it on as a noise maker, but I can't stand that kind of senseless noise. If they aren't actively watching something the TV is off or we have it on a music channel. DS does not like to eat most things. He has always been a picky eater. He takes forever to eat a meal and it's made dinner time my most dreaded time of the day. I love him dearly but the picky eating is by far the most frustrating thing in my life. I should be so lucky.
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:22 AM on Dec. 2, 2013
Then if you don't do it already, make yourself a to do list every day. Mark things off as they get done so you can see even small accomplishments. Do your kids participate in sports? They can meet friends through activities like that. Or even through activities at your local library.
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:46 AM on Dec. 2, 2013
Answer by older at 11:15 AM on Dec. 2, 2013
Answer by 2autisticsmom at 12:11 PM on Dec. 2, 2013
Answer by wendythewriter at 12:25 PM on Dec. 2, 2013
Answer by Ballad at 1:21 PM on Dec. 2, 2013
Answer by staciandababy at 1:25 PM on Dec. 2, 2013
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 2:06 PM on Dec. 2, 2013
Answer by tntmom1027 at 4:05 PM on Dec. 2, 2013
Next question in General Parenting
Solutions for getting toddlers to take medication?