Did your daughter obviously mourn her grandmother's death? Or did she attempt to shove it aside and not deal with it? At ten it may very well be that she doesn't understand it really, or it may be that she cannot admit that Grandma is gone. I was 12 when my baby cousin died. I started acting out really poorly because I felt that I couldn't mourn her death. I couldn't admit that I was hurt because everyone around me was so obviously devastated. I thought I was being selfish for hurting because I couldn't hurt if my mom and my dad hurt. And although I was the youngest child, I was always kind of the oldest emotionally and my sisters leaned on me a lot more than I could handle. I am not saying this is neccesarily the case with your daughter. However, make sure she knows it is completely acceptable for her to cry and to talk about it. Maybe you guys can make a scrapbook or something in memoriam?
at 10:53 PM on Feb. 19, 2009