Last week I asked a questions about a coworker who is completely disrespecting my space at work. Long story short, she covers my breaks (I'm a receptionist) and I often come back to my things reorganized. It's my desk - I'm the only receptionist, but she seems to have boundary issues (in that she doesn't understand them). My main frustration is that she rudely shoves my knitting projects aside (my work is very quiet) even though they're not remotely in her way. I've left her notes asking her to please not to this but nothing seems to change.
I stayed home yesterday - the weather here is absolute shit. So big surprise, I come back today to my desk completely rearranged. Now, I have a huge L-shaped desk and there's PLENTY of room here. There's probably nothing she could be doing down here that would require her to move EVERYTHING. I came in this morning and I can't FIND anything, and she's taken it upon herself to try and "help" me do my job better - putting things where she seems to think they would be better, etc. She has only been here a couple of months and, quite frankly, is a TERRIBLE receptionist when she has to cover me - I've been here six months, and I'm pretty good at my job and I definitely don't think I need any "help" from this idiot. I'm SURE she thinks she's helping by reorganizing everything... but she's not. I have everything where I know it is, the way it's been since I got her. If I thought it would be better in a different place, I'm pretty sure I have the sense to move things around myself.
I'll be honest. In this type of situation I'm pretty timid. Until recently I had a problem even telling older people that they were wrong, even if they were VERY wrong about something. This particular woman is probably in her early fifties, and I'm twenty five - most of the rest of my coworkers are older than me as well. I hate confrontation and I'd sooner bitch about something to my friends or my fiance than actually do something about it.
My fiance suggested emailing her, rather than having to stare at her stupid blank face and hope that some of my words get into her brain... but I don't know. I still don't think that talking to her at all will have any effect. Mostly everyone here agrees with me that she seems a little... lacking in the common sense department.
Some of you gave me some really good advice last week, but now this is a more specific problem... ie, touching my freaking stuff! If I decide to send her a quick email, what should I say? What would you ladies say? Or, what would you do instead?
Help! I'm losing it here!
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 12:39 PM on Dec. 4, 2013
Answer by Rosehawk at 1:22 PM on Dec. 4, 2013
Answer by silverthreads at 2:47 PM on Dec. 4, 2013
Answer by wendythewriter at 11:23 AM on Dec. 4, 2013
Answer by Dardenella at 11:25 AM on Dec. 4, 2013
Why not just tell her the next time she comes down to cover you 'Thanks for coming down to cover me. Oh, and hey, if you could do me a huge favor and not rearrange my stuff I would sure appreciate it. Sometimes it takes me a while to find things when I don't know where you have put them and I have things set up in a way that works for me. Thanks a bunch!' If you are feeling more giving and kind, then tell her where you are going and ask her if she wants you to pick something up for her. Kill her with kindness.
Other than a verbal confrontation I don't really see anything different happening. If you send her an email she can pretend she didn't get it or if things are not said in a certain manner and she takes something wrong she could use that against you.
Answer by QuinnMae at 2:51 PM on Dec. 4, 2013
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 11:36 AM on Dec. 4, 2013
Answer by 2kids2dogs2cats at 11:46 AM on Dec. 4, 2013