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Should I leave this relationship?

For a year I been dating and living with my boyfriend. I been always trying to get him to stop answering his ex but he continue to do so. His ex still loves him. He said she's crazy he don't want her and don't worry about her. She be calling and texting as if she's doing it on purpose because she know I'm here with him. He had her blocked but somehow she got unblocked. In August I talked him into filing a harassment report. He refuse to follow through with it. she even claim to know where he stay at and she said she been over. Now I have some of his female friends following me on Instagram, but nobody interact with me nor speak with me. He refuse to put our pictures up so his ex can see us. I'm the only one posting our relationship on the internet. he said he don't want people in our business. He post other female pictures on his social media. He will not stop answering his ex nor will he change his number. he won't give up his ex information or anything. she calls/texts as she pleases. He say he blocks the numbers she calls him from but I later found out she is only on his reject calling list. On Instagram there is nothing about us on his page. I do all the work. He don't text when I'm around but he be answering. He told me he answer her so she can stop calling him. I'm confused in all this. He said she obsessed over d*ck. I talked to him about this before. He said she crazy.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 11:00 PM on Dec. 6, 2013 in Relationships

Answers (11)
  • WALK. WALK NOW. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. Get out NOW.

    And no more relationships till you've finished school.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 11:17 PM on Dec. 6, 2013

  • He's likely telling her you are crazy.

    He's not letting her go => He doesn't want to let her go. And she's not going to leave him alone if he's acting like he's not in a relationship with you.

    The signs are all there. Don't listen to his lies anymore.
    anng.atlanta

    Answer by anng.atlanta at 11:50 PM on Dec. 6, 2013

  • I use to think with me staying here that would indicate something. I guess not anymore
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 11:57 PM on Dec. 6, 2013

  • Nope. It indicates he's got a fallback plan with you. Don't be his fallback plan. Be smarter. He's not worth it.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 12:01 AM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • I hate to get used
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 12:03 AM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • She's BAAAACK!
    PartyGalAnne

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 2:27 AM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • i would say leave.
    christina122952

    Answer by christina122952 at 8:05 AM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • I would leave. There is no relationship in anything you posted. A relationship involves two people. It looks like all you are is friends with benefits. Though I wonder, and feel free NOT to answer, is there sex at all? If there is minimal or no action in the bedroom you can probably assume he's getting it somewhere else. You would know better than I would.
    2autisticsmom

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 8:47 AM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • We have sex everynight
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 5:33 PM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • Ok then friends with benefits. Still sounds a bit one sided. I don't see him growing up anytime soon. Up to you if this is worth staying in. Just please use protection you do not want to drag a child into this mess. Wait until he comes around. Or leave and wait until someone is willing to do their part in a relationship.
    2autisticsmom

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 5:54 PM on Dec. 7, 2013

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