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His birthday is Tuesday, but party is today. Do we not say anything on his ACTUAL b-day?

My youngest turns 3 on Tuesday, and usually we have been able to have his, actually all of our kids's, parties ON his birthday, but not able to this year. I feel like if we do all the cake and presents tonight, doing anything again on his bday (like a special breakfast or our own personal gift to him, etc) its just going to confuse him.


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Asked by Anonymous at 5:04 PM on Dec. 7, 2013 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Does he KNOW what day his birthday is?

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 5:10 PM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • lol probably not.


    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 5:11 PM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • I'd act as if the party date WAS

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 5:22 PM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • Will any of his family or friends mention it on Tuesday?

    I really see no problem wishing him a happy birthday on the date. I'd save off one gift to give him then.

    I don't think it will be too confusing. He may think it's great getting gifts twice.

    Answer by anng.atlanta at 5:39 PM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • I do. I always throw a family and friends party on the weekend, then do something special on their actual birthday with just immediate household.

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 5:59 PM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • I always do. Party and real birthday are not always the same thing, might as well teach him that now.

    Answer by anime_mom619 at 6:19 PM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • I also do a party for family and friends on the weekend, and always made their actual birthday extra special with special meals, and presents from us ( they didn't open ours at their party, they had plenty that day) kids always kind of had birthday weeks.

    Answer by ohwrite at 6:21 PM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • I'd sing Happy Birthday to him at breakfast on his birthday, maybe give him a special little present on that day. I always did. It never messed with my daughter's head or anything. She's five now, and grasps the concept that she doesn't always have her birthday party on the actual day, but it was never an earth-shaking deal.

    Answer by Ballad at 6:28 PM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • I'd at least acknowledge his actual birthday. 3 years is old enough to at least explain party vs. actual day. He probably won't understand entirely but it's not going to confuse/scar him for life by acknowledging the actual day. At most he'll just enjoy celebrating twice. I know adults that still celebrate for the entire week....

    Answer by maecntpntz219 at 11:04 PM on Dec. 7, 2013

  • Eh, I'd just do it all on his party day. My 3 year old would have asked me a billion questions otherwise.

    Answer by staciandababy at 11:35 PM on Dec. 7, 2013

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