I am so tired of people talking about how kids are sent to school and 'labeled'. I am tired of hearing how High Functioning Autism is the 'New ADHD' to.
This woman was talking to me about her son who was having trouble in school. She started ranting on how the school wanted to have him tested and labeled so that they could help him. She said she was refusing to allow her child to have a label slapped on him. According to her labels make children feel broken and worthless. So basically she is allowing her kid to struggle in school because she will not allow the school or seek a doctors opinion to help determine why he is having difficulties.
Anyway I decided to tell her that my son was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome- hoping that would just stop her from talking to me anymore. lol. She then went on to rant about how HFA was over diagnosed and it was the ADHD of the 2000's. I finally made an excuse to step away from her.
I just don't get this way of thinking... I mean, if your child was having trouble breathing you would seek medical attention for his quality of life. They may diagnose him with asthma and you would accept the diagnosis because that is what you need in order to get breathing treatments and inhalers to help-they don't hand those to people who don't have a medical need based on diagnosis... You might also need a doctors note saying he had asthma in order for his activity to be monitored in school. You would not consider an asthmatic child as 'broken' But you talk about a learning, mental or social disorders and all of the sudden it is a 'label' and not a diagnosis.
Why do you think that is? I don't get it. How does a diagnosis become a label?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:19 PM on Dec. 7, 2013 in Special Needs
Answer by maecntpntz219 at 9:29 PM on Dec. 7, 2013
Answer by maecntpntz219 at 9:31 PM on Dec. 7, 2013
Answer by Rosehawk at 9:54 PM on Dec. 7, 2013
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:16 PM on Dec. 7, 2013
Answer by Ballad at 10:32 PM on Dec. 7, 2013
I was "labeled" dyslectic in 2nd grade. And I am eternally thankful to my parents for that. I got "special" help, and am now the only person in my family with a masters degree. I would not have been able to do that with out early intervention. If I didn't know why I struggle while others don't, I would feel like I was stupid. My ex had a childhood friend that would write to him on a regular basis. I remember reading one of his letters and telling my ex that his friend was clearly dyslectic. He never got help. He could never keep a job, and lived with his parents until he died. My son was "labeled" HFA in second grade. If he had not gotten all the special help he needed, he would not be in college right now, with an $80,000 scholarship. Like Rose, I also never let him use it as an excuse, as my mom never let me use my "disability" as an excuse. But knowing why we are different helps so much.
Answer by musicmaker at 11:35 PM on Dec. 7, 2013
As a teacher, I see parents who decide to not get help, and I just want to tell them that their children are suffering in school because they know they are different, and they don't know why. The other kids know they are different, and treat them badly. (usually not in front of teachers, so it's hard to stop) I had one mom who told us we were not to tell her son that he had Asperger's. She didn't want him to know. Don't you think he wondered why he had to see learning support teachers? I'm sure he knew he was different. So instead of thinking, I have this awesome superpower ( because I truly think Aspie kids are awesome) that others don't have and they don't understand me, he's thinking, everyone thinks I'm weird, and they hate me.
Answer by musicmaker at 12:02 AM on Dec. 8, 2013
Answer by vanillaorchida at 2:14 AM on Dec. 8, 2013
Answer by vanillaorchida at 2:20 AM on Dec. 8, 2013
Answer by vanillaorchida at 2:47 AM on Dec. 8, 2013