First here's some back story. About 6 months ago our son (he was 16 then) and his girlfriend decided to have sex (she was 16 as well). We found out, we had to wait to see if she had gotten pregnant, thankfully she wasn't. So my husband and I, and her parents came to the agreement that they were to only see each other when there are adults present.
We told our son that they could do stuff together if her Mom took her to get birth control, and we could trust that she was taking it. Well that was 6 months ago, and it never happened, so we've stuck to our end of the agreement. Her parents have said we're too strict, and that they don't mind if they do stuff together, that they trust them..... In other words they want to be their friends. We refuse to be our kids friends.
We also have set rules that if he gets any D's or F's he's grounded for a week for each. That means no driving, and no cell phone. So he got 2 F's, and also got in trouble for messing with his cell phone in class, the teacher took it, and then our son decided to get the phone out of the desk at the end of class without asking the teacher. He knows he's not supposed to have his cell phone in school. We've told him he's to leave it in his car for the day.
So we grounded him for 3 weeks. He was very upset that he won't be able to see his girlfriend...... So much so that he decided he was going to leave our home when I was gone friday evening taking our other sons to their Grannys house. But, since the weather got bad, I didn't go anywhere, and went in his room to tell him and saw a bag that was packed, with his shoes on top. I asked him what it was for, and he said he was just organizing his room. After I told him I'm not a fool, he threw a note at me, and said he was going to leave while I was gone. So he then proceeded to tell me that he was 17 and there wasn't anything we could do about it, and he was leaving.
I called the sheriffs dept, and they said it's a "gray area". At 17 he can do what he wants, and we can't stop him. So he called his girlfriends Aunt, and she came and picked him up.
He's sent me a few texts since he left. None of them to say he was sorry, only to tell me that if he would decide to come home, he'd let me know. I told him he would have to do a lot of talking, and there would be consequences if we were to let him come back home.
He's now staying with his girlfriends aunt, or parents, I'm really not sure which. He's told me that he's going to be going house to house, and then say's he's on his own. I've told him he's not on his own, he's just using everyone else but us to live. He has no job, money or a car.. I don't know how he's going to survive on his own.
Despite what he thinks we're worried sick about him. My hearts broken, and my Husband has been out of state during all of this. So he feels really bad for me having to deal with all of this alone.
I would appreciate any input on this.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:17 PM on Dec. 8, 2013 in Teens (13-17)
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