Lol.. I didn't know how else to title it. I am not a total idiot I just need some bedroom advice.
13 years together, 3 kids, he works 2 jobs a work 1. We are busy people but we still seem to get sex in fairly often and we are pretty satisfied with our sex life in general. The only problem is, my husband is usually the only one to initiate it.
Why? Well, I have tried to figure out why I used to be able to play equal parts in this but now I just feel intimidated. Partly could be lack of self confidence in my physical appearance after 3 kids ( I now look like a 14 year old boy with absolutely no curves :( ) . I like sex a bit rougher than DH does. He likes to start out with more kissing and fore play (I know what woman complains about that?) when I would rather just tear clothes off and go at it on the kitchen floor or wherever. He is always worried about the kids waking up and seeing, and I get we cant be as spontaneous etc, but I get realllllly tired of going to the bedroom after a long day and starting out the same old ways. I dress up for him, we use toys sometimes and we can get really raunchy once we are into it, but the start up just is lacking.
I am NOT into stripping, I don't think either of us could keep a straight face and it just isn't my thing. We have kind of tried role playing but again, we both feel awkward.
Anyone have some ideas on how to come on to my husband that aren't going to read like a cheesy romance novel or self help book?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:45 AM on Dec. 9, 2013 in Relationships
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Look at the different sections of this website. Down to earth, practical, advice for couples. GL
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