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Has anyone's SO said this to them?

My SO and I have a pretty good relationship, get along great, barely any fights, but with most good relationships.. Guys can be assholes! The last couple days, he's been kinda rude and being so cold towards me so yesterday, he made me feel bad about something real stupid.. I burst out in tears, not cause of the issue, but because of how he was and has made me feel this past week.. I just hid my face and cried and told him how he was being.. He went to sleep, so did I eventually..

Then today, he randomly goes to the casino for 3 hours, almost spend $200 then ends up winning $1300, for Christmas..meanwhile, I was annoyed, pissed off and hurt. We talked when he got back, and while we were cuddling, he says..'I'm an ass, ain't i?", I said,'how r u an ass?, he says,'do I need couples counselling to stop being an ass? I would go if you want me too' I said.. 'All men are assholes at some point but I'm lucky to have an ass who knows when he's being an ass and admits it.. I doubt we need counselling', thought he was joking but he wasn't..

I've been in bad abusive relationships before and I couldn't handle them being an ass, cause they just kept going and being an ass but with my SO, he's barely ever an ass and when he is, I let him know & he will stop. I was happy he actually owned up to what he was doing and thought he actually needed counselling but he so doesnt lol. All men are assholes, you just gotta find the one worth fighting for

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Asked by CandieGirl09 at 6:45 AM on Dec. 14, 2013 in Relationships

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  • I'm sorry to burst your bubble. My man isn't an asshole. So please don't lump him into your generalization of " All men."

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 8:00 AM on Dec. 14, 2013

  • Occasionally my DF says something that hurts my feelings but he doesn't mean to. He's just clueless sometimes but not an asshole.

    Answer by jenny3344 at 8:13 AM on Dec. 14, 2013

  • I agree, my husband isn't an asshole, he isn't perfect but that doesn't make him an asshole.

    I'm not perfect either, I don't think that makes me an ass either.

    I have 3 sons, all adults, all with really nice girls, I don't think they're ass's either.

    I think you may have made some bad choices in men along the way, but that doesn't make all men ass's.

    Answer by ohwrite at 8:37 AM on Dec. 14, 2013

  • Hmmm... I think I found myself a few prudes lol

    Comment by CandieGirl09 (original poster) at 8:56 AM on Dec. 14, 2013

  • My husband isn't an ass. He has never intentionally said something mean or made me cry. Sure we have disagreements, but we don't fight. My husband respects me too much to hurt my feelings without thinking. Maybe you should take your husband up on the counseling

    Answer by missanc at 9:46 AM on Dec. 14, 2013

  • Not all men are assholes. That's a pretty immature way of thinking. Are there a lot of people who are assholes? Yes, I know a ton of men AND women who are complete assholes. However, to say all men are assholes is not only incorrect, it's a stupid generalization.

    Also, to point out that all men aren't assholes isn't being a called being intelligent.

    Answer by anime_mom619 at 9:52 AM on Dec. 14, 2013

  • My husband isn't an asshole
    This isn't something you should just accept

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 10:13 AM on Dec. 14, 2013

  • I don't think prude means what you think it means.

    Answer by Brawn at 11:28 AM on Dec. 14, 2013

  • All PEOPLE can be inconsiderate, grumpy, and rude at times, yes. And many times people need to step away and take a breath, do something different, before coming back and apologizing. That's normal as long as the pain inflicted just stems from hurt feelings over rude behavior. I can be a totally unreasonable grump at times, and so can my dh. That doesn't make either of us assholes. Itmakes us human. If that describes your SO, then fine. If it's more, then I'd seriously reconsider this relationship

    Answer by Nimue930 at 2:06 PM on Dec. 14, 2013

  • Gee. This is a twist... Normally, the women on here would be ranting and cussing their DH's and SO's without even thinking twice.
    Must be "Be nice to my Lover Day"... ; )

    Answer by AubreyRed at 5:48 PM on Dec. 15, 2013

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