Not always harmful lies; I know the ones to get out of trouble or to get something she wants that she otherwise shouldn't have should be corrected. Also, I'm not talking about my own child, so keep this in mind.
I am babysitting for a relative. I've known the child her whole life; to her, I am "Aunt Kailey."
That being said, she is well behaved most of the time with her own little quirks, just like every child. One of her "quirks" is that she seems to be a habitual liar. I mean, like everything the child says is displaced. It doesn't even have to be something that anyone should feel the need to lie about. For example, if she does not want ketchup on her sandwhich when asked, she will say, "My mommy doesn't let me have that." If she wants candy (lastnight) before bed, it is, "Mommy says the candy in my backpack is for a bedtime snack." If she doesn't want to share, it's "Mommy says I do not have to share my toys." Etc etc... These are the ones that get talked through and corrected (not so much the ketchup one, I just say something like, "It's okay if you don't like it; you don't have to have it on your sandwhich. That is why I asked to make sure."
What do you do about the others? "I've seen one of these dinasaurs before. I rode it's back in the Jungle." Me: "Oh, did you have that dream?" Her: "No, it was real. My mommy didn't mind, and then I cut off its head." .... My response was "Oh, Okay..." ... but what would you say? Notice, this is just an example, almost everything she says, (to adults, anyways) is some sort of manipulation of the truth. Is this a testing phase? A cry for attention to make things more interesting?
I know lying is a difficult concept for young children, but what do I do to deal with this? I don't want to acknowledge the lies and make it worse, but I don't want to point out every single thing she says as a lie, either...
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