How to sum this up? Someone else is throwing my best friend her baby shower. My BF is from out of town and is flying home with her husband for several days for Christmas. Another friend of BF's is throwing her a surprise shower with BF's mom so that BF will have a chance to visit with family and friends (and also have a shower, duh!). Anyway, before I got the invitation to the shower, I mentioned to the hostess something about my 3 month old baby, and she said, "Babies are fun to have at showers." Which made me think maybe they aren't wanting kids to come, and I have a 3 yr DD and an almost 5 yr DS.
The shower is the day after Christmas, but my husband has to work. My MIL and mom will both be at said shower. My DS loves for me to leave him with sitters, but my DD will cry pitifully until my return. Even though seeing my BF is important to me, I don't feel like it's appropriate to leave DD for hours just to be one face among many at my BF's shower. My DD didn't get invited after all and she is my BF's god-daughter and is named after my BF.
I inquired with BF's mother as to whether anyone else was bringing children, "If not, I may just pop my head in at the beginning and drop some things off." In her response, she didn't deny that the kids aren't meant to come, though she said I could bring them.
Anyway, the point is that I don't know how to handle the shower. I already offered to bring food before I got the invite. I could send the food over and a gift with one of my moms, but I just feel really heartbroken not to get to see my friend pregnant and give her a hug and a kiss and let her meet my 3 mo. over something silly like the formal rules of hosting an event. It just seems stupid. If my BF were involved in the planning, she would probably have made sure I was able to attend with or without the kids. But it's a surprise! What do I do?
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