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i have a 9 yr. old who lies alot what do i do?

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Asked by missyda at 12:38 PM on Feb. 20, 2009 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • Do you catch it alot. I would call her on it everytime. Even in front of her friends. She'll get tired of it and eventually stop. Maybe? Hopefully?!

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:47 PM on Feb. 20, 2009

  • Call him on it every time you catch him. Also find the 'little boy who cried wolf' story read it and discuss it.

    Answer by goaliemom93 at 12:48 PM on Feb. 20, 2009

  • What kind of lies are they - just little white lies? Like did you clean your room and they say Yes but they didn't? You could try doing the same thing to them...for instance - tell them you got them they're favorite treat at the food store and then when they want some of it - admit you lied and then ask them how they feel about it.
    It could be just a faze but if it is worse than that - maybe talk to a therapist? There is usually a deep need to do it in people who tell a lot of lies even if they don't need to lie.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:17 PM on Feb. 20, 2009

  • Bust them out for every lie. Talk to her about how everytime she lies your trust in her goes down. Tell her that if she keeps lying and something really bad happens, NO ONE is going to believe her. When she lies, have her write an apology letter to whomever she lied to. Make her write dictionary pages every time she lies. She will end up with an awesome vocabulary which will help her when she takes her SAT's for college. Pick pages that have to do with lies, trust, etc. You can also have her write Bible passages too. That one worked for students when I was in Catholic school, some of those passages and dictionary pages are long.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 8:57 PM on Feb. 20, 2009

  • one think i no about kids that lie is that somtimes they do and somthims they dont so be careful.

    Answer by Macara at 4:37 PM on Mar. 1, 2009

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