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At what age do you let your kids choose?

When you give your kids a birthday party. At what age to do let them choose who is invited or not.
Do you force them to invite family? Or is that their choice.

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Asked by BOOGIETHEBOOG at 9:38 AM on Feb. 24, 2014 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • I would not force them to invite family after like age 7 or 8


    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 9:40 AM on Feb. 24, 2014

  • I have always let them choose. I merely restrict the numbers :)

    Answer by goldpandora at 9:43 AM on Feb. 24, 2014

  • If it is a family gathering then they have no choice no matter their age.
    If it is a party for the birthday child then by the age of 5 or 6 they should be able to choose what friends they would like to come to THEIR party.
    My rule was no more guests that the age of the birthday child.
    But a family gathering, whether it is "for the birthday child" is not focused really on the child, it is just an excuse to get a mob of people to come and give gifts because you went and gave gifts to their kids. It is often time for half of the adults to knock down to many beers.

    A child's party focuses on games and age appropriate entertainment for the special child. So it depends on when the question is really focusing.

    Answer by Dardenella at 10:19 AM on Feb. 24, 2014

  • They can invite whoever they want. I determine the number.

    Answer by momngram at 10:20 AM on Feb. 24, 2014

  • DS has pretty much always been allowed to choose who came to his party. We haven't done a family birthday party since he was 2.

    Answer by kmath at 10:28 AM on Feb. 24, 2014

  • We don't do parties. Haven't in years. We let them ask a friend over, and we go out for pizza and a movie, or if there aren't any good movies out we find something else fun to do. Sometimes they just have a sleepover with one friend over, and have pizza and rent movies....

    Answer by MrsLeftlane at 10:40 AM on Feb. 24, 2014

  • Mine's always been able to choose who comes to his party. The only family about were his grandparents and they were always at the top of the guest list anyway.

    He hasn't HAD a party in a few years, though.

    Answer by gdiamante at 10:50 AM on Feb. 24, 2014

  • Starting at preschool when they had "friends" outside of our immediate circle of friends and family. As for family they are invited no matter what and then the children are given a number of their friends they can invite.

    Answer by aeneva at 1:01 PM on Feb. 24, 2014

  • Dd is turning 10 in April and planned her entire party. She chose the place, the guests and didn't invite her cousins. This is her first party since age 2 but if she had parties the last few years I would have let her choose. So around age 7 is a good age to choose.

    Answer by jenny3344 at 1:04 PM on Feb. 24, 2014

  • Family is not a choice. Others like frinds are.

    Answer by louise2 at 3:48 PM on Feb. 24, 2014

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