DS will be 4 in september. he is our only child so he gets all our attention. i wouldn't call him spoiled, but he sure is strong willed. yes, often times extremely stubborn. my DH complains i'm too hard on him at times. he's the soft one, so i assumed i gotta be the one to discipline.
DS is kind of a child who doesn't listen the first time you tell him not to do something. gets his way done. he's one of those kids you see in the store who's kicking and throwing a tantrum in the store (on the floor!) when their mommy tells them she can't buy them candy/sweets/icecream. he doesn't do it every time when i tell him he can't have whatever he's asking for but once in a while he will.
so just to break his habit i sometimes would say no where my husband thinks it's okay to let him have what's he's asking for. i believe that's spoiling him more. agreeing with whatever he wants.
like today at dinner he won't eat his food. he's gotten into a new habit of keeping the bite in his mouth long enough till he gags it out. he has this favorite pair of pajamas. those one-piece bodysuits in fleece material and zip up from the front. so i got him 5 of these. they were great for winters but now the weather is getting warmer i was thinking about putting them away. but he throws a fit if i bring out any other kind of pajamas. there is this purple one which was his favorite. honestly i was getting sick of them. it's a battle getting him into school clothes in the morning because he wants to stay in his pajamas. and as soon as he returns from school, or anywhere else, he starts like a broken record "purple pajamas, purple pajamas purple pajamas"
so at the dinner table he did his gag-drama again. i knew he was doing it on purpose. he's been doing it for about a week now and i would let it go. but today i had had enough. i threatened to throw away his purple pajamas (which he was clutching to his chest, i promised he could wear it after he was done with dinner). he spit out his food again! i was so furious that i snatched the pajamas from him and threw the pajamas in the trash. sent him upstairs with dessert.
he was in tears but honestly i was too angry to care.
my husband came to me and told him that he was sobbing and hiccuping when he went up to cuddle with him and do the story time. he says i'm always too hard on him. but if i'm not he just does NOT listen. trust me i've tried everything!
so yes, i do need an unbiased advice. am i really too hard on him considering he's an EXTREMELY strong-willed child who actually does the opposite of what you ask him to do. requests and coaxing...forget about it!
what would you do if you were in my place? and this is not just about those Godforsaken pajamas! this happens everyday with everything!
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