I hate going anonymous, but this is a touchy subject.. I am a semi-regular.
I'm concerned about my friend.. we've been close since middle school, but have recently started drifting apart. We're both in our 30's now.
She has two boys, from two different dads. She is going to marry the guy she had her last son with.
Problem is... the guy is a scumbag. I can't emphasize that enough. He's unemployed, sells drugs from their house which means he has people in and out of there day & night, plays video games all day, ignores her and the kids, and is completely arrogant. His shit apparently doesn't stink, and he will tell everyone all about it.
I'm worried about the kids with people going in and out of the place all hours of the day and night. They're always too broke to buy kids new clothes, or groceries, yet have money for silly luxuries like video game consoles and the latest cell phones (which they have to buy outright because their credit SUCKS)..
Last time I visited, there were dirty diapers on the floor, filth everywhere, a bong and weed shake all over the coffee table.... Come onnnn... She even made a comment how she cleaned up, I wonder what the place looked like before. Gross.
I love my friend.. any time I try to talk to her about anything, she goes completely into denial. She talks so proudly about her boyfriend, and how great her life is. I don't know what to do anymore. I care... about her, and the kids... but I see this getting so ugly if I just blow up and let everything out there, and nothing gets resolved.
Just considering calling CPS breaks my heart... but I don't know what other option there is. She lives 8 hours away now.. it's not like I can just go help her myself.
Any advice is greatly appreciated. This is SAD.. especially when the kids come last with all these wedding plans she's making in the middle of all this mess. Thanks.
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