So I was hoping to get assistance from the state for daycare because I just got a new job. I'm a single mom and the BD is not part of my son's life or mine for that matter.
So my thing is in order to get assistance I have to pursue child support and that can't happen because just to spite me the BD would take me to court for some sort of custody and that is just something that a child should not have to go through, regardless of the judgement. He would feel it necessary to get custody of some sort if he had to pay support...basically if he was "forced to be a parent" then he would...no one should be forced, you should want to. So my predicament is...how does one get daycare that isn't going to be so expensive? It ends up being more expensive to work to pay for daycare! Hope someone can give me some advice
Asked by Anonymous at 4:13 PM on Feb. 21, 2009 in Money & Work
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Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 12:34 AM on Feb. 22, 2009
First of all he is by law required to pay child support and just because he takes you to court does not mean that he will be granted any kind of custody, especially if he has not been in the child's life until now. He is trying to scare you and it is working. Open a child support case...it takes money to take you to court for custody. I would so call his bluff on this one! You cannot get state assistance without pursuing child support. Do what is right for your child...get them the support he/she deserves. Most men like this are all talk until you push back and then they shut up.
Answer by salexander at 12:43 PM on Feb. 23, 2009