Ladies I would like to say that I absolutely did not want to offend anyone. In public or not kids will notice things that are different about behavior, looks, even old men who are missing fingers, they notice, and they ask. I really appreciated the anwers, and realize that the word "retarded" is overused to joke, and therefore not acceptable in any circumstance. To clarify, I have never allowed my children to say "retarded" jokingly, and have explained when I heard my own kids or their friends, cousins, etc. say it that it may offend someone. I explained the meaning of the actual word, and explained that even used in that sense that it would probably be offensive. That was how I dealt with the word before I read the other question about it. So, sorry if my question was offensive, because the whole point was to find out what can be said that is OK. I most certainly hate drama, and do not want it on here.
Answer by GraciesMommy25 at 5:36 PM on Feb. 22, 2009
You sound very level headed and I appreciate that. I think we all use words the wrong way from time to time, and that any form of conversation is good because it leads to learning. I didn't see the other stuff, but I did answer one ? about this topic. We all live and learn. As for drama on here--it is a a given, even if a person does not mean to start it, there is always something somewhere.
Answer by Teachermom01 at 10:02 AM on Feb. 22, 2009
Very good of you to try and explain the use of the word to others. There are quiet a few words we use and hear that are offensive when used in certain ways. When I was younger the word 'retarded' was used to both offend and describe someones mental disability. Not the case anymore.
I actually looked up the word on my pc dictionary:
re·tard·ed [ri tïŸ¯rdÉ™d] adj
1. underdeveloped: not fully developed the retarded growth of the plant
2. mentally challenged: an offensive term meaning intellectually or emotionally challenged
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