My son, who was adopted by my mom, comes out on spring break to see me for ten days @ spring break. My 17 yo sister who I was recently reunited with may be coming too, she wants to meet him. So my parents asked me to not have her come because it would take away from the visit with him. I'm taking it personal because they bend over backwards for him to be around my ex's fam,who hate me, and my other family members. It actually bothered me that they thought I would ignore him as close as we are. I just want him to meet his aunt. He doesn't know anyone from the other side of the fam. They said it would be neat for him, now that I make it happen they have a problem with it. The thing is no one actually asked my son what he thought. I think it's just them. She would only be there for three day's, my son will be here for ten. I thought I was thinking of him by introducing them. I'm not trying to take away anything at all.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:53 PM on Feb. 22, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by americansugar80 at 9:01 PM on Feb. 22, 2009
Go with what your heart tells you they can't back down on something they had said it was alright and when it is actually gonna happen they say it is not a good idea.
No do what you want I am sure you will make time for them both and this will be a perfect oppurtunity for them to meet. Just go for it. Next time don't say anything damn if you do and danm if you don't. We can't please everybody. GL
And have a nice visit from them.
Answer by Butterfly1108 at 9:05 PM on Feb. 22, 2009
Answer by MommyAddie at 7:59 AM on Feb. 23, 2009
It is annoying but they are his parents. If you go against what their wishes are then you risk not being able to see him at all. I would continue to be the one to bend over backwards so that I could continue my relationship with my child. When my child is an adult I trust that the time and energy I put in to nurturing our relationship will help create that steady foundation for a real parent-child relationship. But knowing that if I argue with his parents I could loose that then I wouldn't chance it. I can nurture my relationship with my sister at the same time, just not while they are together. At least not until my child is an adult. If that is how it has to be in order for me to maintain my foot in the door, annoying as it is, I would do it.
Answer by Anonymous at 3:48 PM on Feb. 23, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 7:26 PM on Feb. 23, 2009