We really want to adopt, but we a child that has been diagnosed with mild autism. We don't want to put it in our adoption profile, but we would be willing to talk to a possible birth mother about it one-on-one. He is doing really well with diet and therapy and his outlook is great. Would this be a deal-breaker for you?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 3:03 PM on Feb. 23, 2009 in Adoption
I wouldn't place with you if I thought you had your hands full, that's the snap judgment I'd make if I read it in a profile. If I met you and I thought you were a warm caring person, the right person, it wouldn't matter.
Answer by Farrahann at 3:07 PM on Feb. 23, 2009
Answer by SThompson21 at 3:10 PM on Feb. 23, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 3:30 PM on Feb. 23, 2009
Honestly yes it would. I wanted my son to have a sibling he could hang out with, bond with and be close to. Autism may not necessarily prevent those things, but there are so many families that want our babies I'd just move onto the next. Also I'd be worried my child would be neglected because the special needs child would take up too much of your time. Again may not necessarily be true, but I'd pass up on your profile.
Answer by onethentwins at 3:37 PM on Feb. 23, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 4:10 PM on Feb. 23, 2009
I am adopted, not a birth mother but I can still fathom an answer imagining myself in a bmom's place. The deal-breaker for me would be choosing to contact you and then finding you didn't tell me everything upfront. Bmoms can get attached to the families they meet on profiles, giving up their child is a huge emotional deal. Don't disappoint someone by deceiving (and not telling the whole truth IS deceiving) them and letting them know once you've met them more personally. You put them in a very awkward position that way and they're not going to give their child to someone that they question their ability to trust. To me, as long as it seemed like you had your ducks in a row and my child would not be on a "back burner" due to your child, no, it would not be a deal-breaker.
Answer by Anonymous at 12:13 AM on Feb. 24, 2009
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Answer by danielle808 at 8:08 PM on Feb. 25, 2009