Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Hubby is stubborn

ok so we are in the market to buy a "nused" car...ive fallen in love with 2 so far and because he dosent unass himself to go look at these cars or buy them they obviously and eventually get sold.....so, now ive seen a 2011 expedition el for a semi good price that i love....how do i ask him to at least go test drive the damn thing....and before any of you ladies suggest that i "just go buy it"...that would be a huge mistake.....and an emminent argument waiting to happen...and besides, just my luck id buy a lemon....hes a true car guy...can take em apart and put em back together again..

Answer Question
 
SLC3015

Asked by SLC3015 at 9:46 AM on Apr. 10, 2016 in Money & Work

Level 21 (11,047 Credits)
Answers (7)
  • Honestly it seems like he's intentionally putting off getting a new car. Because if he really wanted to, he'd go out a buy one ASAP. So, really what you need to do is ask him why he's hesitating. Is it possible that there's some financial issue that you don't know about?
    RoboBuddy

    Answer by RoboBuddy at 11:26 AM on Apr. 10, 2016

  • yes...we have a bit of difficulty but we were already approved for financing...he just wont jump right in....
    SLC3015

    Comment by SLC3015 (original poster) at 12:29 PM on Apr. 10, 2016

  • Then tell him that if he doesn't go along with you you'll buy a (insert name of car he wouldn't be seen dead in) because you've seen one you like ...
    goldpandora

    Answer by goldpandora at 12:42 PM on Apr. 10, 2016

  • Is your current vehicle paid for? Sometimes it's hard to dive back into making payments.

    Is your current vehicle in good shape? Or about to fall apart? If it's in good shape, perhaps it's worth it to let it go until he's ready to make the jump.

    If there's no reason for him to be hesitant except that he's too lazy to make the move, then here's something you can do. Go out to do SOMETHING ELSE, and then drive by the dealership. (This only works if you're doing the driving, though.)
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 1:38 PM on Apr. 10, 2016

  • Sounds like you just have to wait tell he decides to go looking at cars.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 3:45 PM on Apr. 10, 2016

  • It sounds as though he has some reason for not looking. Maybe he feels it isn't possible to buy one right now, but he should come clear with his reason. Ask him, in a non-confrontational way. If he is too tired to do anything, then he needs a medical evaluation.
    Bmat

    Answer by Bmat at 9:04 AM on Apr. 11, 2016

  • ok, so he actually agreed to have me bring one home that i liked...but he picked over it better than road kill.....it "stunk, like baby diapers", had a messed up air vent, had scuffs on the outside and interior, wasnt a 4x4, they wanted 22,868...for a 2011 ford expedition el....71,000 miles....we NEED a big suv...my son is 19...severe autism (so he will be with me for a LOOOOOOONG time), and is super big...6 foot 2 and every other suv we have tried him in is too small...his head touches the ceiling...so i returned the truck today.....honestly though, the dealer guy pissed me off with his shitty attitude since i didnt buy it...so i dont want to give them my $$ anyway now...but still....
    SLC3015

    Comment by SLC3015 (original poster) at 9:08 PM on Apr. 11, 2016

Join CafeMom now to contribute your answer and become part of our community. It's free and takes just a minute.