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I REALLY WANT ANOTHER BABY, BUT I CAN'T SEEM TO TALK MY HUSBAND INTO IT! WHAT ADVICE CAN YOU GIVE TO HELP ME CONVINCE HIM TO HAVE JUST ONE MORE BABY! AND YES WE CAN AFFORD IT!

WE HAVE FOUR KIDS ALREADY! MY SON REALLY WANTS A BABY SISTER AND I AM HAVING BABY FEVER!!!! NEED HELP BAD!!!

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honeybunz77

Asked by honeybunz77 at 4:04 PM on Feb. 25, 2009 in Trying to Conceive

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  • You can't. Do you really want your husband, the man you committed your life to, your soul mate, your best friend, your lover, to give into you simply to get you to quit badgering. It must be very hard to be on opposite sides of this one, but maybe you need to leave it alone for a while and talk to him about it again. It's unfair to badger relentlessly in an effort to force something on him that he does not want.
    kemclaughlin

    Answer by kemclaughlin at 4:06 PM on Feb. 25, 2009

  • It is disrespectful of your hubby's feelings for you to try to force this on him. Children need both parents in it 100%.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:13 PM on Feb. 25, 2009

  • You need to comprimise. He shouldn't always have his way 100% and neither should you. Are there concerns that he has that you could talk to him about and work on before conceiving another child to make him feel better about it? Is your husband the provider for the family? He probably looks at it from a different prespective. Do you have enough money to get each kid a car and pay for their college (if you choose to do that for your children). Do you have enough to support them all if something bad happened? Do you have enough time and money to support ANY extra curricular activities your kids wanted to get in to? Is it tiring caring for the 4 you already have? You may have a million dollars to spend on your kids...but there are only 24 hours in a day. Perhaps he's worried about not being able to give each child adequate attention? There are a lot of reasons, past money, to be hesitent about having kids (cont.)
    NovemberLove

    Answer by NovemberLove at 4:42 PM on Feb. 25, 2009

  • If he's not ready or doesn't want more---you can't make him want more. --That would be like him trying to convince you to not want more--its just not gonna happen. --But lets face it as women, we always want another baby--my mom is 50 and would love another if she could (thank God she can't) lol. -- Be thankful for the ones you have, and maybe someday dh will be ready for another, or maybe he won't, but you can't change his mind.
    Lanasmom

    Answer by Lanasmom at 4:43 PM on Feb. 25, 2009

  • Why not talk to him and see what his hesitation is? You don't want to force him into a 5th child and then deal with resentment or frustration from him later. There are other ways to deal with baby fever.
    NovemberLove

    Answer by NovemberLove at 4:44 PM on Feb. 25, 2009

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