It is a feeling and a responsibility And i have to look at it as such bc my husband is overseas. I do love him. I feel it in my heart. But if i fail to express that when he needs it the most i am failing him. So it is also my responsability.
For me it is a nice feeling in the easy times and sometimes you have to make yourself hang onto it in the hard times. Overall it is a feeling for me. As a feeling it is subject to change. Therein lies the issue. When the feeling changes can you truly bring it back due to responsibility. I don't want to be in an obligatory relationship, and I don't want anyone to be with me because they have to. There are times you might not want to have the relationship, but you hang on due to the responsibility. then there are times that the feeling is gone, long gone and then I think ou just need to quit as neither person will be happy.