What if you knew they would enjoy themselves once they were there?
My 8yo dd's friends are having a birthday party today at the YMCA (a pool party). My daughter is their best friend (they're twins) and she begged and begged to go but I had no way to get her there. So I contacted their mom and she said she would be happy to drive her so I set it all up.
Now my dd says she doesn't want to go and is making herself sick worrying about. She says she doesn't feel like swimming today but she LOVES to swim. She lives in our pool in the summer. They will be here in about 5 minutes to pick her up and I'm making her go. I know she will have so much fun if she just goes. She does stuff like this all the time. She's very timid and shy and afraid to try new things so we have to force her...like girl scouts.
Answer by Anonymous at 6:46 PM on Feb. 28, 2009
I wouldn't force her to go.. If she regrets it later. That is a lesion she will learn.
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Answer by ZaTa at 1:07 PM on Feb. 28, 2009
There must be a reason she is not wanting to go...I think I would focus more on that. Let her stay home and use that time as an opportunity to talk to her about why she didnt want to go. Maybe someone will be there who has been mean to her or she doesnt get along with, or feeling uncomfortable in a swimming suit. Stuff that seems silly to adults, but REALLY IMPORANT to her. Let her know she can communicate these things to you. There are some great American Girl books for her age....on dealing with friends, sticky situations, giving confidence about herself etc. http://astore.amazon.com/wwwcjkidzcom-20?%5Fencoding=UTF8&node=6 If there is some substance behind her thinking....maybe these books or you can help her solve to deal with in the future.
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