I'm a Terrified Aunt who suspects childabuse fr sisterinlaw & stepchildren. My brother filed for divorce after a domestic dispute in which the sisterinlaw was jailed & just recently convicted. We had the kids, 2 beautiful girls ages 3mos & 16 mos, during her 5day jail time & about a month total. When my brother went to custody court, she was immediately awarded almost full custody & my brothers testimony, rudely ignored. Later found out she had 4 pre. domestics & has abused her other 2 kids social sec. During the mo. we had babies found #'s signs of neg. some verified by a doc. after I took them to get past due immunization. The 16mo, now 2 has had ongoing bout w/painful constipation & I reported to SS. She wouldn't take her in at the immediate request by doc. This is when I suspected sexual abuse as 14 yr stepbro chgs diapers along w/ many other family mbrs. 2 yr old is sensitive in strange way while chg diapers.Help PlAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:17 AM on Mar. 1, 2009 in Health
Answer by navy-wife at 7:14 AM on Mar. 1, 2009
I agree with navy except for the VAX, doesn't matter if someone chooses do DO so or NOT, those parents either way are NOT neglectful. What is the strange way that child acts when having a diaper change? I'm 10 years older than my sister and my brother is 12 years older than her and we both used to change her diaper so I don't understand about the age thing in the 14 year old. You can't just go and report things without knowing first hand and I know that is hard to hear. But unless you see or hear things, completely know for sure don't make that call. You can PM if you like and I will NOT judge you.
Answer by Christine0813 at 7:49 AM on Mar. 1, 2009
You sound just like my MIL. She accused my son's daycare of abusing him because he had constipation and he hated getting his diaper changed. She called CPS on his daycare and it was a nightmare. I even took him to the doctor and the doctor ruled out sexual abuse. She also threatened to call CPS on me because she decided that my son was allergic to milk and I kept giving it to him. And BTW, not having your child VAX is not a sign of abuse. My suggestion, unless you have proof of pictures with bruises or actually evidence from a doctor saying that she was sexual abused then I would keep my mouth shut because you are going to cause the mom not to trust you and she will not let you see your nieces/nephews again. Keep a log journal if you can and write anything suspicious but please don't report every single little thing such as the mom not taking the kids to get their vaccines.
Answer by JeremysMom at 8:30 AM on Mar. 1, 2009
I don't think constipation is caused by sexual abuse. It sounds more like stress is the cause for that or poor diet.
Recurrent UTI's are a sign of sexual abuse in girls.
Answer by beeky at 8:52 AM on Mar. 1, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 8:43 PM on Mar. 1, 2009
Honestly your best bet would be to take a child to a child psychiatrist. They specialize in things like that, and know how to go about it to find out what is going on. Constipation can be a sign of poor diet, not enough water, or it could also be a sign of sexual or any kind of abuse. Every persons body works differently. So if a child is stressed they could still be constipated. If I were you I would take a child to a doctor immediately and talk to them about your suspicions. They would know what to look for if the child is abused.
Answer by Reggie2 at 8:29 AM on Mar. 2, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 7:11 AM on Mar. 4, 2009