Look at him with thoughts of why you fell in love in the first place. If you would see him walking down the street, remember the attraction that you felt for him. From the other direction, make an effort to be his "lover"- I mean, don't take him for granted. Smile and hug him when he gets home, treat him like king of the castle. Date nights are great for keeping the focus on the two of you. Have a date night every week. Something else that is great for keeping the romance is to get away for a weekend every month or so. It doesn' t have to be far, but go to a bed and breakfast, stroll around the town doing some light shopping or seeing the sights. Walk hand in hand, have dinner, talk, talk, talk, and listen, listen, listen. Find out what are his concerns now and what he enjoys and is hoping and planning for. Court him. Many hugs to you. I am smiling just writing this and thinking of my husband.
at 10:49 AM on Mar. 1, 2009