I have been married 3 years. I love my husband, he loves me, but I have this nagging fear always that if I am not perfect he is going to get rid of me.
When I was a kid, after my parents got divorced, this happened to me 5 times. Normal, everyday things would happen. My mom dropped me off to my grandmoms house for a sleep over and didnt come back for 5 months. No word from her the whole time. One time I was 14, in the hospital with the flu. My fever was 105, I was dehydrated and hallucinating. My mom was there beside me, she said "I love you baby, I am going to go talk to the doctor" I didnt see her for 3 years.
Tonight DH came home early to suprise me. He bought me a new cell phone. I could stop shaking.
The house was the mess! He usually come home after the baby has gone to bed and I have time to pick up her toys and clean up. And I had just gotten done feeding her, so there was food all over!
He didnt say anything
Asked by Anonymous at 10:53 PM on Mar. 1, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 10:54 PM on Mar. 1, 2009
Answer by krazyash023 at 10:55 PM on Mar. 1, 2009
I think we all do this from time to time. I also think however that you need to explain all this to your doctor, just tell him/her what you told us. Maybe there's a med to help ease it, so that its not so terrifying for you. Given all you have been thru I can truely understand where it's comming from. Let me know if you need to talk. I wish you luck!
Answer by Alwaysacarnie at 10:58 PM on Mar. 1, 2009
Answer by Val504 at 10:58 PM on Mar. 1, 2009
Answer by BlueFrogMama at 10:59 PM on Mar. 1, 2009
I have/had irrational fears too. I have lost lots of loved one in my lifetime, and not to normal old age stuff, usually very tragic stuff, to very young people. I still battle with it, tho it's not as bad for a few reasons. Mostly, I had to learn that God is in control. Also, my husband and I have had many long conversations about my fears, and he has tried to help me understand them...and understand them himself. Having his support has been key in this. I'm assuming your husband knows these things about you...and loves you anyway. It would be easy for me to just tell you to let go...but at some point, that's what you gotta do...but you have to find your way there first. It also may help to go talk to a counselor....bring your husband along so he can help understand things too. Good luck.
Answer by momjoy1027 at 11:02 PM on Mar. 1, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 4:32 AM on Mar. 2, 2009