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i have a friend and we talk and it seems like everything i say she plays off of...i told her i wasnt going to let my daughter play with this certain girl that much and she said the same thing.well she turned around and invited this girl over to play everyday.we talked about a particular person ,she didnt tell the person but did kind of act off of what i said(there weaknesses)we were close and confided in alot of things.its like she played off these things..she wont let her daughter play with mine anymmore tho i ask her why and she says there is no daughter is upset.i am wondering why she is doing this.(getting info and using it for her benefit)i have never really meet anyone who has done this.and why wont she let her daughter play with mine.its like she took everything i said and used it....

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Asked by snowmom974 at 11:19 AM on Mar. 3, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Well the question is a little to vague to figure it out. Sounds to me like you were set up and used. You should try not to play into the gossip circle be true to yourself and follow the old saying....If you can;t say anything nice..don't say nothin at all GL

    Answer by heather.darin at 11:23 AM on Mar. 3, 2009

  • Could it be possible that the mom of the other girl gave her side of the story and your 'friend' believed her?
    Or maybe sometimes people simply outgrow each other and you should take no real offense. There can be no real way of knowing unless you asked her directly.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:26 AM on Mar. 3, 2009

  • ya set up and used....i did ask her directly. she said nothing was wrong.she said she liked my daughter and didnt have aproblem.everytime my daughter asked her to play the mom says no.its funny though she(the mom seems to like it)when i give her daughter strokes.her daughter is the best...does no wrong is perfect,,ex.....and the middle childs mom wont get involved and she doesnt...

    Answer by snowmom974 at 11:41 AM on Mar. 3, 2009

  • If it comes down to feeling used and feeling lied to then it might be best to just stay away from it all. My future brother in law says it best when he says that life is full of everyday drama and if you don't want more added to it than say away from those whom create more.
    If that is the way that she acts then just let her go. Maybe she is not the friend you thought that she was and maybe that is not a good person to have around your little girl. Sometimes there is nothing wrong with the kids our children make friends with but the moms and dads of those kids.

    Answer by Butterflykola at 11:47 AM on Mar. 3, 2009

  • Maybe she has trouble talking to you straight?
    She maybe wasnt being as open or honest if she truly felt to stay away from you.

    Answer by aMbeR012005 at 12:23 PM on Mar. 3, 2009

  • Some people want to avoid confrontation, and so when you ask and she says all is well, then this is likely just a way to avoid a scene with you. It can't be something in your house could it? I am thinking of a very sweet lady whose home I visited a couple times, but the smell of her litterbox was so strong that I didn't want to go there anymore. Anyway, you can't make her be your friend again. Back off. If she comes around then great, but it doesn't sound as though she will. It really does sound as if she was just playing you. That she is manipulative. You couldn't have known. There are people like this. They act all nice and concerned but are just using you, it is like a game. She has shown she is not a true friend, so let her go and make new friends.

    Answer by Bmat at 12:30 PM on Mar. 3, 2009

  • dont have a cat but do have a shepherd...but she has an akita who is known to fight who has actually fought with one of the neighborhood dogs and won and i am the only one who knows what happened besides her.she didnt even tell her i dont thin k its that.its weird she also says she is non confrontational but i think that is one sided.she doesnt like to hear it from other people but boy has she gotten into afew fights but they were all her doing not the other person...

    Answer by snowmom974 at 12:59 PM on Mar. 3, 2009

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