I have learned so, so much from the many adoption groups on Cafemom. I've met incredible women who are birth moms, adoptive moms and adoptees. The stories I've read involved a lot of pain & it has been an education that I am grateful for.
But there are times that I wish I didn't "know" all this stuff about adoption. Lately I've wished I could "put it on a shelf" for a while, but of course that's not entirely possible. How can you forget such profound stories of love & loss?
There are times I wish I could just raise my adopted child without examining the adoption experience. I don't want to worry about how my child may end up scarred or carrying baggage from adoption. I just want to live in the "here and now" & enjoy life as it is today. I want to just cross whatever bridges there are later, yet I know that if I don't educate myself I won't be prepared.
Ever feel you need a break from adoption in general???
Asked by Anonymous at 5:51 PM on Mar. 3, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 6:20 PM on Mar. 3, 2009
Answer by MommyAddie at 6:28 PM on Mar. 3, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 6:41 PM on Mar. 3, 2009
Answer by melody77 at 7:01 PM on Mar. 3, 2009
Yes. Friends often remind me I am raising a child and not an adoption project. It is easy for me to get too caught up and worry about how well adjusted my daughter will be when she grows up. So I have to relax. With all the books out there saying do this and do that it can get a little crazy. I agree with AllaboutKeeley that reading some of these experiences does make adoption sound so negative. But there are many positive experiences that all people from the triad have had. I am sorry for those that feel other wise but their experience has nothing to do with my child, me, or my daughter's bmom.
Answer by Anonymous at 9:15 PM on Mar. 3, 2009
Yep. Ignorance is bliss.
Answer by onethentwins at 12:51 PM on Mar. 4, 2009
Answer by Southernroots at 3:54 PM on Mar. 5, 2009
Answer by Anne28 at 5:02 PM on Mar. 6, 2009
Answer by mnmommy1 at 6:28 PM on Mar. 10, 2009
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