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How do you help a preschooler through embarressment?

In the past few months, we have been dealing with what we think is embarressment tantrums with our 4 year old (as of Jan. 21). Examples of this... he knocked down a display rack, very clearly by accident, in his favorite store. He then cried and told us he hated the store and wanted to leave. He was very upset even though we tried to tell him it was just an accident. Another example, he fell on a slick floor while wearing his favorite boots. He immediatly decided he hated the boots and tried to throw them away, and cried until left alone in his room a while. What can we do to help him through these things, help teach him he doesn't have to be embarressed of accidents?

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Rshcraig

Asked by Rshcraig at 9:02 AM on Mar. 4, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • This is normal, I think. Kids that age blame objects for events not really themselves. Just tell him stuff happens sometimes and it is not the stores fault or the boots fault. He may outgrow this. Good luck.
    KARRIEMARIE

    Answer by KARRIEMARIE at 1:20 PM on Mar. 4, 2009

  • Show him, through your own actions, that embarassment happens to EVERYONE - make it normal for him, not something that only happens to him, which is likely how he feels. Sorry, but take a tumble now and then to show him that mom and dad get emabarassed, drop things, have accidents, etc. too.
    JPsMommy605

    Answer by JPsMommy605 at 3:38 PM on Mar. 4, 2009

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