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What is the best approach in explaining to a 9 year old when you have been caught in the act??

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:36 AM on Mar. 4, 2009 in Relationships

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  • be honest. My 8yo understands what sex is. No need to be graphic but do not lie or cover up, either. That is just insulting to their intelligence.

    Answer by MammaMia72 at 11:40 AM on Mar. 4, 2009

  • What's to say? Moms and dads have been caught throughout history. The only thing I can think of is to ask him/her to respect your privacy and when your bedroom door is shut to knock and wait for an reply from you.

    Answer by admckenzie at 11:51 AM on Mar. 4, 2009

  • Time for the talk! Lol. Its really not as big of a deal as people seem to think. Just explain that you and DH were having private time and that s/he should knock on the door and WAIT for you to answer. Also explain that sex isn't something you go to school and talk about because at that age kids LOVE to talk to their friends about anything new they learn!

    Answer by metalhealthmama at 12:02 PM on Mar. 4, 2009

  • The truth Let him/her know it's something normal that happens only between husband & wife (I know that's not nec. true but if u dont she/he may try it w/ a lil friend & then there is drama & other problems ofcourse) & that he/she is a lucky child bcuz some momies & daddies stop loving each other in that manner but he/she has a mommy & a daddy who still show each other that "special love".

    Let him/she know that it's nothing that's wrong when done between mommy and daddy BUT that it IS private which is why he/she should be careful when comming into ur room, so maybe try knocking & to try not to talk about it w/ other ppl. bcuz it's not something others need to hear since it's a private matter btween hub & wife.

    Appologige for not taking better precoution, say u both need to make an effort then ask if he/she has any questions for u. Try to b honest, age appro. & what u don't know admit 2 it & tell him/her u'll look it up.

    Answer by Happ-eToBme at 12:10 PM on Mar. 4, 2009

  • I would explain that you and daddy were having private time and if he has any ?'s he can ask. Let him know that its ok to ask ?'s though, cause kids talk and you want him to know the facts, like private time/sex is only done between 2 adults that love eachother and so on and so forth... At the school district my brother attends (age 10) they have the talk as a class in the 4 grade... my brother would have been 9... So he knows what it is and let him know that there is nothing wrong with what you are doing...

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:12 PM on Mar. 4, 2009

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