I have been in a relationship with a man for two years, hes a good man, hes nice to me and very sweet. He helps me out with my house, he is good to my kids. He is a good lover (when he is in the mood-not often) My problem is he has no motivation in life. He is BiPolar and he spends most his energy on whining, complaining and talking about how ill he is. He don't work, he sleeps most of the time. I just keep thinking I can find someone who is adding to my life and not being a drain on it. I don't want to be with him anymore, but I don't know how to get out of this relationship. He will be devestated if I tell him I want to break up. He is going to probably talk about suicide and dying. (He has before) How do I end things with him and not feel guilty when he lays on the guilt. I'm a very empathetic person and I hate to hurt others. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:53 PM on Mar. 4, 2009 in Relationships
Sweetie you need to learn the difference between helping someone and enabling someone. It sounds like you are enabling him and his behavior. So what if he threatens to kill himself, call the police and they will escort him to the local hospital and keep him under watch for 24 hours. We all need to feel emotionally connected to someone but he's being an emotional vampire and it's not healthy for either of you. Get out while you can!
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Answer by mom_wrhsc at 1:59 PM on Mar. 4, 2009
Have you talked to him over this?
If you plan on leaving make sure you got all what you need he might not let you go so easily if there is no more love then leave. You don't need this kind of treatment but yet he sounds like a wonderful man not all people accept other people's kids (past). Once you leave it won't be long before he charms some other woman and catches him then you'll want to come back and it will be too late, think this through before you do anything who knows you just might get what you wished for so be careful. GL
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