My oldest behaved the same way. At first I was like you and didn't know what to do or say. But then I realized if he likes her, and he comes home talking about how much fun they had that day, then you should help him remember those times. Kids at that age are in a progression where they forget about the day before, and only remember what happened at that moment. So if you have the gift of memory, help him on the days he comes home feeling less enthused about the fun he had and remind him of yesterday. Also, when he starts saying things that are a little too upsetting for you, as a mom, ask him how he would feel if he thought she was saying those things about him. It might take a while, but it's just like potty training, all good outcomes are not quick and easy. I bet he will be excited to see her everyday when he realizes that not everyday is a bad day, and every bad day is not just a bad day for him either!
at 2:27 PM on Mar. 4, 2009