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please help. i have always slept with my 4 1/2 year old,lay with him to go to bed, when he comes in our room at 5 am ,, i go back and lay down with him. now have a 2 week old daughter, cannot lay with him anymore and it is killing both of us. he won't fall asleep on his own, says he is scared, just stares in space for hours. what can i do to get him to sleep by himself? in his own room. and to go to bed and fall asleep on his own. this has me so stressed

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Asked by indysownlilbit at 4:37 PM on Mar. 4, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Make sure he had a really big and fluffy stuffed animal to hug. Keep at least one and maybe more nightlights on all night, and the room light if he needs it. If he feels that the baby is taking his place and he is being pushed aside, he may be terribly sad. Perhaps you should let him sleep in a sleeping bag on the floor near your bed, although it would still be the baby beside Mom. This would be a bad time to train him from sleeping with you. Perhaps you should have both in your bed for a while, You don't want him to think the baby is now taking his place.

    Answer by Bmat at 4:42 PM on Mar. 4, 2009

  • I agree with the first poster! This is not going to be easy because you have kept this co dependent sleeping pattern up for almost 5 yrs. The good news is you'll know better next time with your new baby.

    Answer by legalmommy101 at 4:44 PM on Mar. 4, 2009

  • And also if you do help him sleep in his own bed, be sure to have him help out so he feels like a part of the family and not just a kid thats beeing pushed aside. When you can, spend some time with the whole family. Let him sit on your lap while SO holds the baby so he gets some personal time with you.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:46 PM on Mar. 4, 2009

  • You have to be firm with him. You and your husband have to tell him that he can't sleep with you anymore. I tell mine why--because he kicks too much. Just keep taking him back to his own bed.

    Answer by momo8child at 2:17 AM on Mar. 6, 2009

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