We adopted a little girl about a year ago after fostering her for 2 years she wanted a sister her counselors suggested we go ahead and adopt another child. We are in that process now, but our already adopted child is regressing and my husband is very up set that we have done the wrong thing that we will destroy the lovely child we already had. The new child is a super challenge she has lived in a group home for over 3 years and has lots of issues including being very detached at times. We have even talked about returning her, but that doesn't seem right. We don't want to damage our already adopted daughter, but now what?
Answer by Anonymous at 12:52 PM on Mar. 5, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 2:12 PM on Mar. 5, 2009
If you don't think that you are the best fit for that child then you need to let the social worker know. It does happen. But it has nothing to do with that little girl you brought into your home - the one who is acting out. It does have everything to do with the fact that your home may not be the best environment for that child. It takes a lot of time, money, energy, patience, and an infinite amount of understanding. Not all foster parents realize initially what they are in for. It doesn't make you a bad person or bad parents. It just means that perhaps you were never the right parents for this child. You need to be very realistic in the situations you bring into your home. I would also let the child know it is nothing she did. I would honestly tell her I don't have the skills it takes to provide you with what you need. Because that would be the truth. Again, not a negative about you. Just stating a fact.
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