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what is normal for a temper tantrtum n how do i disipline?

the problem is my 3 yr old lil girl is a DIVA to the core,if she doesnt get what she wants she crys.she doesnt do what i ask her to,even the simplest things.BIG problem is i dont like hitting,but time out last four 10 MINS! shes only suppose to have three,but she will kick scream hit punch n tell me to shut up on her BAD days and i cant handle this! i love her to death but omg she has a bigger attitude then me! weve tryed standing her in corner but she runs away , we tryd a chair but she kept playing with it and now same with her timeout rug...any ideas? is this normal?

 
mamacita4two

Asked by mamacita4two at 7:21 PM on Mar. 5, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • well, we spank our preschool son. however, ideas to avoid spanking....

    get down on the same level with her and talk very VERY firmly to her. make her stand in the corner until she stops yelling and screaming and kicking and punching. and then give her an extra 3 minutes of quiet in the corner. do not talk to her while she is in the corner/time out. ignore her. if she runs away, run after her, and drag her back.

    start taking priveldges away. take her toys away, even if its one by one. do not give them back until she can go say a day without a tantrum. or make it longer depending on how you badly you think she is behaving. dont let her watch tv until she can go a week without the tantrums.

    these are just ideas. i would adjust them to what fits better for you.

    do not give in. and do not give her anything unless she earns it.
    aly38914290

    Answer by aly38914290 at 7:35 PM on Mar. 5, 2009

  • oh and you can also try sending her to bed. if its during the day. then its nap time. if its later in the evening, its now bedtime. we have sent our 4 and 8 year old to bed 30 minutes early before.
    aly38914290

    Answer by aly38914290 at 7:39 PM on Mar. 5, 2009

  • NEVER let her have what she wants when she has a tantrum. Calmly tell her, "Now you can't have it because you cried/whined/screamed."
    momo8child

    Answer by momo8child at 1:47 AM on Mar. 6, 2009

  • Trying telling her you both need a calm down period like 1 or 2 mins apart in a special place (pick one out prior) it's good for you to get a breather in too when the tamtrum starts, then when you're both calmed down talk to her about it on her level explain to her why it's unaccpetable. It's really hard to get through to a screaming child and it's no use anyways.
    MrsDeputy

    Answer by MrsDeputy at 2:05 AM on Mar. 6, 2009