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WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT PUTTING YOUR KIDS IN SPORTS AND THE OTHER PARENTS DOES NOT AGREE?

ORGANIZED SPORTS IS WAY FOR OUR KIDS TO BE ACTIVE AND BE A PART OF A TEAM. MY SON'S FATHER IS AGAINST IT. HE CLAIMS ITS INCONVIENENT FOR HIM TO TAKE OUR SON TO HIS GAMES WHEN HE HAS HIM FOR HIS WEEKEND VISITATION. HE DOES LIVE ABOUT AN HOUR AWAY FROM THE PARK. SPORTS SEASON FOR KIDS DONT LAST VERY LONG SO ITS NOT LIKE ITS AN ALL YEAR THING. I JUST DONT UNDERSTAND WHAT FATHER DOES NOT WANT TO SEE HIS SON IN SPORTS. ESPECIALLY IF THE CHILD LOVES IT AND IS EXCELLING IN THE SPORT. ANOTHER PROBLEM IS THAT HIS FATHER WAS TOLD BY THE JUDGE THAT HE DIDNOT HAVE TO BRING HIM TO ANYTHING WHILE HE HAS HIM ON HE VISITATION WEEKENDS, BUT IF HE DIDNT THEN HE WOULD HAVE TO DEAL WITH THE CHILD IN THAT MATTER.

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7ALLTOGETHER

Asked by 7ALLTOGETHER at 5:54 PM on Mar. 6, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • Put the kid in the sports and on the weekends he is with his dad he just won't play those games. He still has the other Saturdays, practices and games during the rest of the week. I work as a board member for my kids little league team and we deal with stuff like this all the time. Just talk to your child's coach and let them know the situation. They will be more than willing to work with you, if they are a good organization. Sports is the best thing for your kids if you can afford it. Keeps them active and out of trouble, good socialization skills with peers, learn sportsmanship, etc.
    goinginsane1

    Answer by goinginsane1 at 5:58 PM on Mar. 6, 2009

  • i would discuss it with the child if the child wants to join then i think the child should. sports helps keep them active, helps them socialize and teaches them to work as a team. there isnt anything bad with sports. tell the father that its what the child wants its the childs life too.
    iluvmymomasboys

    Answer by iluvmymomasboys at 5:58 PM on Mar. 6, 2009

  • The father should not be required to drive an hour each way for something that he objects to. Find a sport that the father would not be required to participate in.
    Bmat

    Answer by Bmat at 6:00 PM on Mar. 6, 2009

  • MY SON'S COACH IS HIS STEPDAD. HIS FATHER HAS HIM 3 WEEKNDS A MONTH AND AS WE ALL KNOW GAMES ARE ON WEEKENDS.
    7ALLTOGETHER

    Answer by 7ALLTOGETHER at 6:07 PM on Mar. 6, 2009

  • IDK what to tell you. Doesn't look like you can do much with just one weekend a month. Maybe look for a sport that does things during the week.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:19 PM on Mar. 6, 2009


  • If their dad does not want to take them than you keep the kids those weekends. KIDS COME FIRST.
    gammie

    Answer by gammie at 6:27 PM on Mar. 6, 2009

  • Does your son want to play the sport? If so, maybe have him talk to his dad about it. Maybe if dad hears him saying he wants to play, maybe dad will be more receptive. Or, another option is to ask dad to come just one time. If he sees how excited your son is, how much fun he is having and how much joy he is getting from it, it will change his mind. Otherwise, there might not really be anything you can do about it.
    tropicalmama

    Answer by tropicalmama at 6:30 PM on Mar. 6, 2009

  • Just an FYI, when online, all capital letters is interpreted as YELLING.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:28 PM on Mar. 6, 2009

  • How old is the kid? I don't think a 6 year old has the same social need for sports that a 10 or 12 year old has. I certainly don't think it's more important to play sports than it is to have a healthy relationship with one's father.
    Avarah

    Answer by Avarah at 10:20 PM on Mar. 6, 2009

  • Avarah sounds that the boys father does not want to do take him. It sounds like he does not have time for his son. So I think he does not have a healthy relationship with his dad. If he took his son to the games they can have a lot of father son time driving back and forth.
    gammie

    Answer by gammie at 12:06 AM on Mar. 7, 2009

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