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Is sixteen too young for tall heels?

My sixteen year old daughter has been asking me to let her get a pair of stilettos to wear with her dresses. She is really set on getting something like a 4-5 inch all black heeled shoe. Is she at an age where I should really consider her request, or is she trying to grow up (somewhat literally here) too fast?

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:48 PM on Mar. 6, 2009 in Teens (13-17)

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  • Ask the 16 year old mommys on here....

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:50 PM on Mar. 6, 2009

  • LOL, anon 9:50. That's too funny. I can't imagine where on earth a 16 yr old would wear a pair of stillettos. She might get hurt wearing them to the high school football game. She's certainly making a fashion statement just by wanting them and it's not a good statement. Will she be wanting a pole in her room next?

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:00 PM on Mar. 6, 2009

  • I dont think there is anything wrong with it. You obviously have a good relationship with your daughter if she was even willing to ask you. When I was 16 if I wanted shoes, I bought them. My mom would make a comment if she hated them but by then it was my decision what I wore (within reason of course.) Most 16 year olds I know would have the same freedom? If you are THAT uncomfortable with it, then maybe suggest some smaller heels? 4-5 inch heels are not always in good taste.

    Answer by jenellemarie at 11:30 PM on Mar. 6, 2009

  • i've been wearing stilletos since i was like 13 i don't think there is anything wrong with it just because a teenager wants to wear heels doesnt mean she is going to be like a hooker or something i had my dd at 18 im fixing to be 20 i have only slept with like 4 guys literally thats not a guestimate it just depends on if you think she would try something or not i say go for it

    Answer by AliciasMommy at 11:58 PM on Mar. 6, 2009

  • I'm 17, and I personally think thats a bit slutty looking. Sorry...

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:45 AM on Mar. 7, 2009

  • Why don't you get her the stillettos and make her walk on it all day. She might not want to wear them after that..Anyways, I love them but they can get really uncomfortable after a while...Stilletos are not bad and can go quite nicley with a pretty dress or trousers (spelling??) if we're talking..short mini skirt..that can send out the wrong message.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:58 AM on Mar. 7, 2009

  • i would wear like 3in heels at 16 but ne thing taller reminds me of a stripper shoe lol

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:04 AM on Mar. 7, 2009

  • i wore heals with my dresses to formals and such. so did my sister. also my sister would wear them on fancy dates. 5 inches seems a bit high, but if she can walk in them i dont see anything wrong with it. plus, she can where them with dress pants too.

    she is 16....she isnt a baby. i know at 16 i was sophomore in high school....i am short so i always liked getting shoes with heals. i got the clunky casual shoes and everything else. lol. but i also wore flat shoes too. it just depends.

    i dont see anything wrong with heels. heels will not turn your daughter into a promiscuous person. if you have raised her with the right values, you should trust her.

    not all tall heels are stripper shoes. goodness people. a shoe isnt slutty. generally its what goes along with the shoes. lol.

    Answer by aly38914290 at 9:26 PM on Mar. 7, 2009

  • oh and i just had my first baby at 25, my sister has not had a baby yet and she is 22. so i dont think a shoe will make your daughter slutty or promiscuous.

    Answer by aly38914290 at 9:27 PM on Mar. 7, 2009

  • Mother,

    Yes, 16 is to young for tall heels..

    Please don't have her growing up to fast... Next thing you know she will be having sex..... or other things you will not approve of..

    It's your call.. I personally think she is to young and she dont want to be violated... Meaning guys looking at her the wrong way or she might be called slut or hore.. (we don't want that)

    Men these days look at girls like that as if they " want me" you know how men minds are sooo nasty and ONLY THINK ABOUT SEX..

    With that being said.. I hope I wasn't to blunt..

    I don't want her to be a victim....

    Yes, She is to young for tall heels..

    Again, momma it's your call

    Hope this helped

    Answer by Elizabeth1837 at 12:20 PM on Mar. 8, 2009

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