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What does a person do when they are lonely, but do not want to take the chance of being heart broken or just hurt?

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Asked by willsurvive at 7:49 AM on Mar. 7, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Once you get to a point where you are comfortable and thriving on your own, you will have more confidence. It takes time. Knowing that you are a whole person who does not "need" someone else to make you complete makes it easier to take the chance on letting someone new into your world. That confidence is very attractive to others as well. The last thing you want to do is let all that loneliness and fear turn into clinginess, jealousy and mistrust that could sabotage a new relationship.

    When you're ready, the only way to feel the joy of love is to open your heart and take a risk. Just keep your head in the right place....

    Answer by halfpint_ny at 8:23 AM on Mar. 7, 2009

  • Now is the time to focus on YOURSELF! Forget men for a while...I did for about 1 1/2 years after leaving a live-in fiance. Join a gym or start a new diet and exercise routine. Did you know that a small amount of exercise or a change in diet, or a change in your regular environments (living and work spaces) can raise the serotonum levels in your brain which in turn "perk you up?"


    Bottom line, in focusing on YOU, and doing what makes YOU happy (regardless of what others think!), can dramaticaly change your outlook on life. That in turn creates a "new you" fit, full of energy and confidence...and THAT is sexy!  That sexiness will have you turning heads, and picking and chosing the RIGHT kind of man you deserve! :o)


    Answer by LoriKeet at 9:01 AM on Mar. 7, 2009

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    Answer by LoriKeet at 9:02 AM on Mar. 7, 2009

  • They remain lonely until they decide to make a change. So do something, anything to build up your confidence in yourself, raise your self esteem and get back in the game of life. You can get knocked down but you don't have to choose to stay down. You might be missing out on the most wonderful experience of your life out of pure fear. Don't let fear rule your life. YOU rule your life. come on in...the water's fine.

    Answer by admckenzie at 9:43 AM on Mar. 7, 2009

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