Setting a good example is the best thing you can do. Praising her for having fun at an appropriate noise level helps too. You can ask her grandparents to tone it down a notch, but it is hard to say how that will be taken. Make sure you aren't being oppressive though, sometimes when we are trying to counteract something we can go too far to the opposite side of the spectrum, nobody wants kids that scream and bounce off the walls, but sometimes it is appropriate to be a little loud and rambunctious so make sure you encourge that at appropriate times & places. Talk to her about inside voice vs. outside voice. Oh and watch for foods that get her wound up (most often sugars & caffine, but can be other things too) & keep those at small doses. Your encouragement of good manners & calm interactions with others will go a long way towards making your daughter a pleasant person to spend time with.
at 4:38 PM on Mar. 7, 2009