This question is more of a rant. He is in his defiant stage. Everything is no! When something doesn't go his way, like his trains derail, or the bull dozer doesn't push enough dirt, he looses his cool. Screaming and hitting himself in the head or on the legs. Then he whines, all day about things he wants or doesn't want to do. He spits in my face and takes toys from his brother. He fights me on everything. I spank, sometimes so hard it hurts my hand...he doesn't care. We do time out in his room with the door closed. that works for about five minutes. I know this is just a phase, because he is normally very good. How does your 2 year old torture you?
No, this isn't normal or typical. A two year old throws tantrums, is defiant, NOT abusive. That part is NOT normal. Time out in his room with the door closed is the wrong use of time out. Make a House Rules Chart, list what is expected of him, no spitting, no taking siblings toys, no throwing toys...! Make it clear and put it where he can see it. He gets ONE, only ONE warning to breaking the house rules, then sternly in a controlled voice, let him know what rule he violated and put him in a time out chair for one minute per age year, use a timer. When time is up, he must give you an apology with an explanation, ie. I'm sorry I spit on you..., then give hugs and on he goes. This takes a TON of patience and consistency, being that consistency is key! Hitting an already "violent natured" child is only violence for violence, it doesn't work. He already has a problem with controlling his anger. Make sure (continued)....
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he knows that it is ok to be angry or frustrated, however, it is never ok to be abusive or violent in his anger. I suggest you watch Nanny 911, her techniques work. I've been using them for 22 years! No excuses....like....well he's a typical 2 year old, this is normal. Parenting is for the weak or the lazy, it takes a huge deal of work, especially if you have a child like your 2 y/o. My oldest was EXTREMLY strong willed, it was near impossible to break, but consistently using the right techniques, it turned that strong willed into a determined strong awesome person. And a peaceful joyful home! Use the techniques right and you will succeed!
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